The Heart of the Matter...

Sun, 12 Apr 2009 12:31:43 -0500

When women abort, we may think the “crisis” has ended.
But in the days to come what we find out is, the true pain in our heart, in our soul, in our mind, was never dealt with.
Now we also have the pain of abortion. We are never the same after abortion. Now we stuff deeper, with another pain, a deep wound - self inflicted.
Women who abort once, are more likely to abort again (some research shows over 40% more likely).
When we take the time to look back at our life, we can sometimes see a pattern, a cycle, from life issues (hidden layers of pain). We are still longing for love, intimacy, acceptance - choosing - using sexual intimacy to try to get love, acceptance, to anesthetize.
Then we move to destructive choices, that turn now into crisis. Thinking how do I escape, run away, not be helpless/hopeless, powerless, out of control?
Can I do this? Can I walk through this? Will anybody help me? Can I make it through...deal with the consequences...overcome...walk through?
Or do I abort what I think is causing the crisis - my baby? It is not my baby that is the crisis...can it be the issues of my heart that, my baby, is bringing to life...
Do I choose life - hope. Do I choose destruction - abort this baby, once, or once again? Do I abort this chance for life, this chance to change...to be healed from the inside out? Life or death...Hope or hopelessness...
It’s time to break the cycle of destruction...don’t be another statistic...no more destruction...choose healing, hope, life...
It is time to stop. To get to the HEART of the matter...to heal your heart...awaken your heart to healing, to real love.
Jesus, Who knows our hearts, will not reject us when we come to Him. He does not want us to “stuff the pain”. Jesus wants to heal us.
He came to free us, forgive us, and release us from our sin, our hurts, our pain, our mistakes...if only we will ask Him.
Sitting back, being still and taking time to let the pain be released from our heart. Come to Jesus, receiving His forgiveness for He knows what really is in our heart...deep within.
His Promise is freedom, a new beginning, forgiven...deeply forgiven...a healing journey...one step at a time.
Jesus will take you through...In the “Deep of His Grace”...
Words of Hope -
“Now, therefore, there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” - Romans 8:1
“If I would have dealt with the real pain in my heart, I would not have aborted, and aborted again...now, I can look back and see the cycle of destructive choices in my life...I thank God those chains have been broken...I am free...free from abortion...Jesus has forgiven me...healing my wounds...one by one...with His Love...deep in His Grace... “ Elizabeth
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A Place of Healing...

Thu, 26 Mar 2009 21:40:25 -0500

How Do I Begin to Heal?

Grief is a process and the healing journey after an abortion is unique to each of us because we are all different in ways we cope with trauma.

Breaking the denial of your pain...

Sometimes people tell us “just get over it...just get on with your life”. But...we see that our lives changed after abortion...and we can not go back to change our choice.

Sometimes we learn to “stuff the pain”...hide the secret...learning to cope, to live in pain through addictive behaviors, triggered by memories which produce anger, fear...broken by the wound caused by abortion...the loss of our child. There may also be physical trauma from abortion.

Sometimes we try to repeat the “crisis”, repeat the pregnancy...wanting to replace the baby...only to abort again. More trauma...a cycle of destructive behavior...it’s time to stop...

Now, is the Time for Recovery...
a Place of Healing...

Below are some healing steps from the
National HelpLine for Abortion Recovery (www.nationalhelpline.org)

· Acknowledge the uniqueness of your child and the meaning of that pregnancy.

· Give yourself permission to grieve the loss of your child.

· Tell your story...to a trusted friend, your Pastor, a counselor...find confidential help at a local Pregnancy Help Center or Crisis Pregnancy Center...there is help...

· Give yourself permission to explore your anger, depression and need for forgiveness...talk to a trusted friend, counselor, your Pastor...journal...

Speak to God about the pain that is in your heart...listen...the healing will come...the pain of abortion can be like layers that need to be lifted by God...

You are Not Alone...
Words of Hope:
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Scripture - I John 1:9 - (New American Standard)

Personal Story....”Finally Free”
“When I read these words from God...I knew I could talk to Him when others would not understand, tell Him of the pain, the regret, the deep sadness, that was in my heart...abortion was like a heavy weight, an unhealed scar, that had been on my heart for years...when I prayed...talked to Jesus...told Him everything that was on my heart...I could feel the weight lift...His love and forgiveness has been my journey to healing...I’m now helping others...finally free...
Cindy

For Help:
It is Time for Healing to begin...
to be free of the pain of abortion...there is help...

In Louisiana:
Confidential Care and Help with Abortion Recovery is provided through:

Confidential Counseling through:
Pregnancy Resource Centers,
(both Individual Counseling & Small Groups)
and
Retreats thru:
Rachel’s Vineyard, Project Rachel,
and
Awareness outreaches (a voice of women speaking out) through:
Operation Outcry and Silent No More Awareness

In the New Orleans or Gulf Coast area you can also call:

New Orleans - Abortion Trauma Hotline
24 hour, 7 day a week - Confidential
(504) 734-5016

Also for Help, Healing, and Resources contact:

Abortion Recovery InterNational

National HelpLine for Abortion Recovery
1-866-482-LIFE

For the journey...

The Heart of the Matter...

A Place of Healing...